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SUBSCRIPTIONS Joining
SPALS INFORMATION About
SPALS (coming
soon) LIST
ADMINISTRATORS Michael
Nettleton Sara
Grimes []
JOINING
SPALS Subscribing
to SPALS is a three-step process: Because of
the sensitive nature of subsequent pregnancy
discussions on SPALS, our subscription process aims
to protect the privacy of list subscribers. All
subscription requests must be accompanied by
a short bio that will be reviewed by list
administrators to determine whether or not you fit
into the SPALS profile. Current
members' bios are archived into a Bio List and are
available upon request only to other current
SPALS subscribers. 1.
Apply to SPALS To apply to
the SPALS list, send an email message with the
text: to our
mailing list manager <spals-request@lists.cirr.com>.
Leave the subject of your message blank. Do
not include any other text in the body of the
message -- and if possible, do not send the message
with formatted text. Do not use the <>'s
listed in the Majordomo address. NOTE:
Please be sure to send your subscribe message with
unformatted text (no fonts, text sizes or
colours). Some common mail programs (MS Outlook and
Outlook Express) send formatted text by
default. Because of the additional formatting
codes used for formatted text, your message may not
be interpreted correctly by the Majordomo, and if
so, it may not record your request to subscribe. Even if your message appears to be returned or
rejected by the Majordomo, please proceed with
submitting a bio (step 2). As long as we receive
your bio, we will be able to process your request for
subscription to SPALS. If you need
further help subscribing, email to list
administrator Michael
Nettleton
at <michael@spals.com>. 2.
Submit a bio At the same
time, prepare a short bio, containing only the
facts of your situation (your full name, living and
deceased children's names and dates, your current
pregnancy status, your location in the form
[country / state / city] and the mother's
age). Email your bio to list administrator Michael
Nettleton at <michael@spals.com>
with the subject "SPALS bio". We prefer a
standard format for your bio information -- please
see our Bio
Guidelines
for information on constructing a bio. 3.
Wait for confirmation Subscription
is not automatic. One of our list administrators
will review your bio and respond to your
subscription request. We aim to respond quickly --
usually, we are able to respond within 24 hours.
Sometimes it may take a day or two. If you want to
check on a subscription request, please send us a
note. NOTE:
During certain holiday times (July, August and the
end of December) our administrators may be away
from email for up to 14 days. We appeal for your
patience during such times. While you
are awaiting confirmation of your subscription, be
sure to read through the SPALS
Charter,
SPALS
Code of Conduct.
SPALS
Guidelines
and SPALS
Tips
-- and also familiarize yourself with the
SPALS
FAQs. We have
prepared these guidelines to help you prepare a bio
to subscribe to SPALS. Here is a sample of what we
are looking for (see below for more
examples): sbgrimes@juno.com
Sara Grimes Full
Name: We must
have your full name to subscribe you to SPALS. This
will appear in your bio listing for other
subscribers. EMail
Address: Provide the
email address you will use to read and post to
SPALS. If this is not the same as the address you
are posting from, please explain why. Brief
Profile: Provide the
name(s) and birth/death date(s) of your child(ren),
including living children, and any pertinent facts
about your loss experience(s). Include your due
date, if applicable. All dates should be in the
form mm-dd-yy. Due to space limitations, try keep
your bio under 255 characters. Please do not send
anything very detailed -- list members will learn
the rest of your story from your introductory post
and in discussion. See below for examples
and abbreviations
for member bios. Age
of Mother: Please list
your age in years (or your partner's age if you are
a father). The vast majority of our subscribers
list their age in their bios. Many also list their
partner's age. Location: Please list
your location in the form [Country / State /
City or nearest urban area]. The majority of
our subscribers list their location in their bios.
You may also use [Country / State] if you
prefer a more general location. Phone
Number(s): We ask that
you provide your telephone number. Sara Grimes and
Michael Nettleton, our list administrators, keep a
confidential list of telephone numbers. This list
is not published in any form. Only a list
administrator will ever contact you directly, if
needed. michael@spals.com
Michael Nettleton esses@somewhere.net
Sally Simpson & Samuel Silverstein fefoster@somewhere.com.au
Fran Foster franklin@server.coastal.net
Heather Davidson All dates
are mm-dd-yy Abbreviations: mscg =
miscarriage / loss
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Bio
Guidelines
Haven Rose (05-09-95 - 05-12-95) at 23.5 wks due to
severe maternal preeclampsia, died from sepsis
infection & severe prematurity. Living child:
Drake McLean (07-23-96). Chronic hypertension &
recurring preeclampsia. PM due 04-22-01. Mom is 39.
Dad (Greg) is 40.
USA / Missouri / Columbia
(REQUIRED)
(REQUIRED)
(REQUIRED)
(REQUESTED)
(REQUESTED)
(REQUESTED)
Robyn Alexandra (b/d 09-11-91) from polyhydramnios
arising from twin transfusion. Living children:
identical twin, Carolyn Emily (b 09-11-91) survived
being 9 wks early; Gregory Adam (09-24-95); Theresa
Kathryn (04-08-98). Mom (Judy) is 41. Dad is 41.
Canada / Ontario / Toronto
IRC: Salada
Mscg 12-94. Shelley mscg 07-95. Shawna (s/b 23 Sep
96) due to unknown causes. TM. Mom is 24. Dad is
28.
USA / New York / Rochester area
1st child Kaylee Rita (11-12-95 - 11-15-95) at 39
1/2 wks, APGAR=0, resuscitated, reason for death
unknown. Pg complicated with untreated high BP.
Mscg (12-96) at 7 wks. PTM. Mom is 39.
Australia / New South Wales /
Sydney
Living son Geoffrey (12-12-91). Loss (07-13-96) at
19 1/2 wks due to severe genetic anomalies &
Downs Syndrome. Clomid. PM due 11-01-01. Mom is
35.
USA / California / Oakland
wks = weeks gestation
b/d = born / died
s/b = stillborn
PM = "pregnant mom" = currently pregnant
TM = "trying mom" = currently trying
PTM = "pre trying mom" = waiting to try
again